What is a Dominatrix?

On a basic level she is a purveyor of fantasies. Most importantly, she is a genuine, dynamic being who creates a world of pain and pleasure, fantasy and reality, who understands the complex nature of human sexuality. A great dominatrix doesn’t just become one, it is part of her being, a natural expression of self. A dominatrix is truly an artist. She is in control: in control of her submissive, in control of her environment, in control of herself. A dominatrix is open and understanding. She will discuss your fantasies with compassion, with delight. She likely knows you better than you know yourself when it comes to your kinks, your dreams, your darkest desires. A Traditional Dominatrix does not provide sex, although there is a sensual allure and aspect to BDSM. In reality, sex has nothing to do with BDSM, it is about releasing power and accepting power from both the involved parties. A dominatrix can be therapy, but she is not a therapist. She can be a role player, but she is not an actor. She can be sadistic, but not necessarily a sadist. She listens well, but that doesn’t mean she will grant you all that you want. A dominatrix has her own fantasies, enjoyments and limits. Never forget that a dominatrix, while often appearing to be omnipotent-at least in session, is flesh and blood, she is human. Above all, a good dominatrix is a professional. She understands her equipment and how to use it. She understands the inherent dangers of BDSM, but maximizes the safety in the environment of play. She understands boundaries for both her and client.